2020: The Year of Yes (& No)
First off, how has it already been a year since we did this? I woke up this morning prepared to write and re-read my goals/resolutions from last year. TL;DR: They’re all in progress still, but that’s ok — Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither was/is my love of water.
2019 was a rollercoaster of a year. And while it wasn’t a complete shit show, these past 365 days have been chock full of the highest of highs and lowest of lows. 2019 brought with it heartache, unemployment (twice), procrastination, difficulty focusing, the loss of a friendship I thought would stand the test of time, financial burden, saying goodbye to the house I grew up in, and a heaping pile of negative self-talk.
And though I didn’t get out unscathed, I have to say that I’m grateful for what I received and experienced this year, and am fortunate enough that I’m ending this decade on an upswing!
This year also brought deeper and more meaningful love, new friends, and the return of others, a new home, a (reasonable) dose of adventure, the fortification of my existing friendships rooted in unconditional love, my first trip out of North America, a new job, and (thankfully) clarity.
Oh, and how could I forget? I graduated from therapy! Before you ask, no — I’m not “done/cured”, but I am much better equipped to navigate life and make informed decisions. And when I feel that I’m losing the ability to do that on my own, or need an unbiased sounding board, there’s a spot on the sofa waiting for me.
As I look forward to the new year, and set my intention for the next decade — my fucking thirties — I have two specific goals in mind: say yes (and no) more.
I want to say yes to:
more adventures (in Seattle and around the globe)
feeling worthy of love and praise
pushing myself to strive for growth (in healthy ways)
self-love and body positivity
expanding my circle of loved ones
trying new things (and foods 🥦)
continuing my journey in self-discovery and acceptance
And I want to say no to:
feeling obligated to do things I don’t want to do
self-criticism regarding my emotions or weight
comparing my journey to others
the unrealistic expectations I set for myself
damaging or one-sided relationships
processed foods and excess sugar (lol)
negativity (both internal and external)
Do you have a list of things you’re ready to let go of or welcome in? I encourage you to say yes (and no) more in the new decade. I think we’ll all live a little healthier, be a little happier, and thrive.
Cheers to 2020, baby.